8 Tips to Start Loving Yourself to Great Health
“I am willing to change.” — Louise Hay
Mirrors reflect back to us our feelings about ourselves. They clearly show us the areas to be changed if we want to create a loving, fulfilling life. The most powerful way to do your affirmations is to look in the mirror and say them out loud.
When people from all over the world who have followed Louise’s work were asked about their success with affirmations and mirror work, hundreds of them responded. They reported so many positive changes in their health, such as losing up to 100 pounds, dissolving autoimmune disease, overcoming addiction and eating disorders, eliminating pain, relieving stress and post-traumatic stress disorder, overcoming anxiety and insomnia, and much more. It’s amazing what can happen when you are kind and loving to yourself!
While you read our new book Loving Yourself to Great Health, we suggest that you have a mirror close by so that you can use it for all of the affirmations in this book. Doing your affirmations in the mirror will allow you to look into your own eyes and notice if you are seeing resistance or love.
Let’s start with an important affirmation. Look in the mirror and say to yourself: I am willing to change.
Notice how you feel. Do you feel any resistance to change? Do you feel as if you can change? Do you even want to? Noticing how you feel about change is important, because when you’re looking at self-growth, your willingness to change can make or break your own success.
If you feel resistant, you’re not alone. Heather used to work as a change management expert, and part of her job was to understand such resistance—why it happens and how to support people through times of transition. Even when helpful, positive changes were introduced in companies, they could fail based on whether people embraced the change or not.
If we let fear stop us from changing, we lose out on the opportunity to see how powerful we really are and how Life really loves us and is there for us!
Here are some wonderful tips that you can do starting today on your journey to loving yourself to great health:
8 Tips to Start Loving Yourself to Great Health
- Decide you are important enough. Louise always teaches that once you try something and you see that it worked out for you, it makes change easier because it gives you permission to do it again. The thing is, you have to give yourself permission to try it in the first place. You have to feel you are important enough to give yourself that permission, to give yourself the space to change, to prioritize it in your life, and to support yourself in being successful with the rest of these tips! Sometimes the best way to change is to just do it, just take that first step of knowing that your health and happiness are important. You are important.
- Take baby steps. Pick one small thing to do—it can be as quick and easy as you like, but do pick one thing and get started. For example, kiss your hand and say, “You are worth healing.” You can just do that for as long as you like and then move on whenever you’re ready. Remember the lesson from the tortoise and the hare: slow and steady wins the race.
- Keep it simple and gentle. The gentler you are with yourself, the better. This is not a “no pain, no gain” approach. Part of loving yourself is keeping things easy and being kind to yourself. Think about how it feels to be gentle to yourself. Remember how afraid the kidneys often are, remember your inner child, and be gentle. Here’s an example of something gentle you can say to yourself: “You are safe with me.”
- Be consistent. Keep in mind that the more you do your mirror work and practice your affirmations, the easier it will get. The more consistent you are, the more results you will experience. Think about the idea of practice—with any new skill, you do not start out an expert. The more you practice, the better you get!
- Get helpers. One great way to build connection and to make change is to create a support system. This could be a friend, spouse, coach, family member, or whomever you feel comfortable with. Some people find or create online support groups or Facebook groups. In any event, it really helps to find a like-minded person or group to support you in doing your affirmations and sharing any roadblocks and wins you have along the way.
- Have fun! Make the process fun in whatever way you can. Laugh at yourself; be silly. Louise walks by a mirror and says, “Hi, kid, you look great today!” It doesn’t matter who’s around and, inevitably, it makes everyone smile and love her even more. Ahlea winks at herself when she passes the mirror. Heather throws her arms up in the air and jumps around after her affirmations. One of the greatest things about Louise and Ahlea’s health and bodywork sessions together is that they laugh all the time. They are doing serious work, yet it’s also fun. Remember, change and healing can be joyous!
- Celebrate even small successes. As you start to change, give yourself credit for starting! You don’t have to wait for major changes to celebrate; you can highlight the little successes you have along the way. Choose rewards that are meaningful to you, yet they can be as simple as giving yourself lots of hugs and kisses. Small children know the healing power of getting kisses from their mothers to make a “boo-boo” feel better. Kisses and hugs have great healing power, especially when you give them to yourself. It might feel silly at first, but it’s a beautiful way to be sweet to yourself.
- Think positive. Psychologists understand what Louise has been teaching for decades: Change is easier when it’s based on positive thinking, rather than guilt, shame, or fear.
Think positive. Psychologists understand what Louise has been teaching for decades: Change is easier when it’s based on positive thinking, rather than guilt, shame, or fear.
by Louise Hay, Ahlea Khadro and Heather Dane